My Hope for Having Children: An Update Of True Story Of Love, Sacrifice, Faith, Courage And Hope
Update as of January 15, 2021
[Full essay can be accessed with following link: http: My Hope for Having Children: An Update of True Story of Love, Sacrifice, Faith, Courage and Hope | Library of Professional Psychology- Part 6: ]
Sixteen years have passed since I first wrote an essay on my true love story of sacrifice, faith, courage, and hope. My triplets and I are meant to be here to share our miracle lives’ journey and how having hope, courage, and faith continues to positively play an important, instrumental role in our lives.
I intentionally live my life with hope, faith, courage, sacrifice, and love. Through the years, the triplets Elizabeth, Reuben, and Michael have had surgeries. For example, Reuben Luis had his first open heart surgery at 6 weeks old, then again at 14 years old on August 10, 2018. Elizabeth has had several surgeries related to being born with hemifacial microsomia, a facial symmetry syndrome that is rare; 1 in 500,000 babies are born with this syndrome. She will have another major surgery this summer. We are so excited for her! This surgery will be approximately eight hours long because they will need to implant a titanium prosthetic jaw joint to her left side and reset the jaw to make it symmetrical. As toddlers, both boys Michael and Reuben had ear tubes in their ears due to chronic ear infections.
Despite being preemies, the triplets have been blessed with being born with many gifts and are exceptionally great kids. All three were interested in learning piano at 6 years old and they actively played piano for 7 years. They learned to play golf at 4 years old and actively played golf until they were 14 years old. Reuben and Michael were in Boy Scouts and Elizabeth was in Girl Scouts. They are black belts in Taekwondo. Elizabeth has continued Taekwondo and is now a 3rd degree black belt in International Taekwondo Federation (ITF) style Taekwondo and a 2nd degree black belt in Kukkiwon style Taekwondo. She has been a paid lead Taekwondo instructor since she was 15 years old. In addition, all three have been volunteering as altar servers for our parish since they were 11 years old.
Two of them were recognized as gifted when they were in elementary school. They challenge themselves academically by taking honors and AP courses. All three were selected to be part of the Innovative Design and Engineering Academy (IDEA) at their high school. They are now Juniors in high school and are in their 3rd year in IDEA. Currently, Elizabeth is interested in aerospace engineering, Reuben is interested in mechanical or software engineering, and Michael is interested in biomedical engineering or something in the medical field.
I believe that challenges and experiences make us stronger because we always have hope and faith that it will work out. I am grateful and blessed to share that the triplets are now 17 years old! Their birthday was January 15th. I am so proud and honored to be their mom.
I would also like to share another personal story regarding my hope for hearing. I was born deaf on my right ear and only hear about 40% on my left ear. I am deaf on my right ear due to being born without an eardrum. I received the miracle of hearing for the first time on my right ear on January 30, 2015! I had surgery to have a bone-anchored hearing aid (BAHA) implant on the right side of my skull.
Although I was told that there was a risk of nerve damage during surgery which could cause me to lose my smile on the right side, I still went forward with the surgery because my hope and faith was stronger than my fear. My hope to hear on my right side became a reality and tears rolled down my face when I heard new sounds for the first time. I heard the sound of leaves wrestling on the tree, birds chirping, tires rolling on the blacktops, footsteps on the floor, water running from the shower in a different room, and being able to hear my kids from behind while I am driving, to name a few!
My daily rituals of gratitude and appreciation coupled with having hope continue to give me strength to be my family’s anchor. I know without a doubt that we are meant to live our best life with intentional purpose to make a positive difference in our personal lives and in the lives of the people in our world.
I learned that when I can’t change my circumstances, I can choose to decide how I am going to respond to my circumstances. I’ve learned to be mindful and ask myself “where is my hope today” to keep me grounded that my Giver and Provider (God) is the anchor of my life and He is in charge of my life and in my triplets’ lives. Keep hope and faith alive.
Hope – if you only carry one thing throughout your entire life, let it be hope. Let it be hope that better things are always ahead. Let it be hope that you can get through even the toughest of times. Let it be hope that you are stronger than any challenge that comes your way. Let it be hope that you are exactly where you are meant to be right now and that you are on the path to where you are meant to be…. Because during these times, hope will be the very thing that carries you through. Quote by Nikki Banas
Maria Calderone Romero
- Posted by William Bergquist
- On February 15, 2021
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