The New Johari Window: #10 An Appreciative Perspective on Human Interaction

The New Johari Window: #10 An Appreciative Perspective on Human Interaction

Setting aside (for a moment) hope for a selective self, we return to the fundamental question: how do we address the deep and abiding challenges associated with a postmodern self that is threatened by saturation and minimization, and that can easily be overwhelmed by a world of complexity, unpredictability and turbulence? How does one relate authentically with other people who face similar challenges to self? I propose that the answer, at least in part, resides in the act of appreciation. This action involves an appreciation of self, an appreciation of the other person, and an appreciation of the remarkable relationship that has been established.

Martin Buber described this sense of intimate appreciation many years ago when he declared that our relationship with an object (“It”) is different from our relationship with someone (or perhaps something) that we truly appreciate (“Thou”). According to Buber, we all spend a great deal of time in our life interacting with objects and do so in a superficial manner:

Man travels over the surface of things and experiences them. He extracts knowledge about their constitution from them: he wins an experience from them. He experiences what belongs to the things. In our appreciation relationship with another person, however, we do not just glide over the surface: When Thou is spoken, the speaker has no thing for his object. For where there is a thing there is another thing. Every It is bounded by others; It exists only through being bounded by others. But when Thou is spoken, there is no thing. Thou has no bounds.

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William Bergquist

William BergquistWilliam Bergquist, Ph.D. An international coach and consultant, professor in the fields of psychology, management and public administration, author of more than 45 books, and president of a graduate school of psychology. Dr. Bergquist consults on and writes about personal, group, organizational and societal transitions and transformations. His published work ranges from the personal transitions of men and women in their 50s and the struggles of men and women in recovering from strokes to the experiences of freedom among the men and women of Eastern Europe following the collapse of the Soviet Union. In recent years, Bergquist has focused on the processes of organizational coaching. He is coauthor with Agnes Mura of coachbook, co-founder of the International Journal of Coaching in Organizations and co-founder of the International Consortium for Coaching in Organizations. His graduate school (The Professional School of Psychology: www.psychology.edu) offers Master and Doctoral degrees in both clinical and organizational psychology to mature, accomplished adults.

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