My Hope for Having Children: A True Story of Love, Sacrifice, Faith, Courage and Hope
Maria Calderon-Romero, Psy.D.
My essay is on hope with a focus on the most incredible, yet breath-taking part of my life story – “my hope for having children.” What happened once my “hope” became a reality…. Not only did I have one, two, but three babies at the same time! Yes, I am blessed to be alive and tell you that I am a proud mommy to “girl-boy-boy” beautiful triplets!
For me, grace is having my miracle triplets. I chose not to give up and continue to fight for my life and my children’s life in spite of my high-risk pregnancy.”
Before sharing my story, I would like to define hope, in the psychological form. There are many definitions of hope that are used in a certain context. C. R. Synder defines hope from a psychological viewpoint as: “the sum of mental willpower plus waypower towards one’s goals. The meaning of goals is very similar to that of hope in that goals are any objects, experiences, or outcomes that we imagine and desire in our minds.” (The Psychology of Hope: You can get there from here, p. 10)
There are also many different definitions of hope; depending on which theorist we follow. But there are several common themes in all the definitions of hope. That is, hope usually involves some uncertainty of an outcome, typically concerns matters of importance, and usually reflects a person’s moral values. Hope is frequently considered a temporary condition that is specific to a given situation and contingent upon one’s skills or abilities.