LOVE LINGERS HERE: INTIMATE ENDURING RELATIONSHIPS XV. PLATE TWO: BEING A BREADWINNER (PRODUCING SOCIO-ECONOMIC VIABILITY/CAREERS)

LOVE LINGERS HERE: INTIMATE ENDURING RELATIONSHIPS XV. PLATE TWO: BEING A BREADWINNER (PRODUCING SOCIO-ECONOMIC VIABILITY/CAREERS)

KEY POINTS ABOUT PLATE TWO: PRODUCING SOCIO-ECONOMIC VIABILITY / CAREERS

Enduring couples:
• Accept that an intimate relationship requires some restrictions in social interactions.
• Give considerable attention to issues of income and allocation of funds.
• Combat tension and rifts over marker events in this plate, particularly when a marker event is shared between two developmental plates (like purchasing a home).
• See their relationship as “in process,” an on-going series of events that continuously defines and redefines itself.
• Allow their partner to shift basic values and find a way to blend in new values to their daily functioning.
• Reduce the force of conflict about money or career by a conscious review of the problem, willingness to accept, use of humor, and a strong desire -to remain in the relationship.

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William BergquistWilliam Bergquist, Ph.D. An international coach and consultant, professor in the fields of psychology, management and public administration, author of more than 45 books, and president of a graduate school of psychology. Dr. Bergquist consults on and writes about personal, group, organizational and societal transitions and transformations. His published work ranges from the personal transitions of men and women in their 50s and the struggles of men and women in recovering from strokes to the experiences of freedom among the men and women of Eastern Europe following the collapse of the Soviet Union. In recent years, Bergquist has focused on the processes of organizational coaching. He is coauthor with Agnes Mura of coachbook, co-founder of the International Journal of Coaching in Organizations and co-founder of the International Consortium for Coaching in Organizations. His graduate school (The Professional School of Psychology: www.psychology.edu) offers Master and Doctoral degrees in both clinical and organizational psychology to mature, accomplished adults.

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