Couples & Family Psychology
LOVE LINGERS HERE: INTIMATE ENDURING RELATIONSHIPS XII. ESTABLISHING NORMS FOR AN ENDURING RELATIONSHIP
This phase focuses on establishing norms (which are the rules by which people live and work with one another in an effective and interpersonally-gratifying manner).
In general, we find that couples move through four overall stages of development, the initial stage being defined as “forming,” and the subsequent three stages being defined as “storming,” “norming” and “performing” — to borrow terms used by Tuchman.
Our couples described themselves as moving through periods of relative stability and considerable contentment, followed by periods of significant stress and disillusionment, often accompanied by profound changes in the structure or goals of the relationship.
We are inclined to be attracted to someone who fills a psychological gap that we cannot ourselves fill. Yet, partners begin to learn from each other later in their relationship, and reclaim aspects of themselves that they have disowned or left dormant for many years.
Love Lingers Here: Intimate Enduring Relationships–VII. The Marker Event: Establishing a Commitment as a Couple
The defining moment in the life of a couple is critical as a way of defining an orienting difference.
Through out interviews we reaffirmed the important fact that sexuality is a very complex phenomenon that extends far beyond the act of sexual intercourse.
Founding stories seemed often to match the enduring nature of the partnership itself in terms of interpersonal flexibility and sensitivity, and a mutual appreciation of the special characteristics of each relationship.
The first myth that we are likely to embrace when we are looking for and establishing an intimate relationship concerns the sense of a “new self”.
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